On love and change

"We just do what we want to do.
We're not here to suppress each other; we complement each other. He looks great whatever he does. I'm constantly changing, evolving. That's good, right?

...Neither of us is ever scared to express ourselves or feels the pressure to conform. And people are always saying, 'What's he going to do next with his hair?' "

-Victoria Beckham in the January 2011 InStyle UK

Though Posh and Becks are often ridiculous, I love this aspect of their coupling. In any long-term relationship, it can be very easy for two people to unconsciously hold each other back: into certain roles, looks, or behaviors. I think this subtle suppression is a big part of why marriage sometimes gets a bad rap. Staying open to a partner's changes, from hairstyles to jobs, is something that most of us have to actively work on.

The Beckhams have had some public bumps in the road, but they definitely seem to cheer each other on and allow each other to evolve, both in their styles and careers. And after 12 years of marriage (which seems like an eternity in celebrity-ville) they seem to be going strong.

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